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Make Happiness a Habit
Don’t Suffer! Be a Surfer!
It is amazing how we hurt ourselves and blame the world for our miseries. Recently, I was speaking to a wonderfully warm woman, who was grieving because one of her friends had died. The person was almost in a depression when she called me to share about how unfair life is, and why we can only expect to suffer on this planet.
I was shocked to listen to her explanation, about how she has never had even two weeks, without something going wrong in her life. I explained the concept of Attraction and how we bring into our lives the circumstances that we think about. I even requested her to buy Rhonda Byrne’s classic...The Secret. Finally I mentioned about the power of positive thinking. But she still argued that she had to grieve, and get the suffering out of her system. She also stated that this would take anything from a week to a month. This was not the way I looked at life, and so I deigned it my universal responsibility to pull the young lady out of her misery, using all the positive techniques I knew.
First, I subtly changed the topic from Death and Grieving to the Uncertainties of Life. Next, I brought in how fortunate I was to be able to bounce back to normal after any setback. I further asked her when was the last time she was able to pull herself out of a negative experience. She was happy to share her experience. Within no time at all, she was smiling, and vibrating to the energy of her normal, positive self. In the next few minutes, I was happy to hear her say: Every time I talk to you I feel good, and energized. I asked her not to thank me, but instead... to thank the universe, and to make someone else feel good.
What does it take to get people on the positive path again? How is it that some people can remain continuously happy, and take anything and everything in their stride? Is there something we can do to keep our sanity, in a world that constantly challenges us to tests of patience, anger management, and conflict resolution?
The secret is to continuously think and do positive things. To give yourself the comfort of a safety net, you should consciously develop a positive group of friends who can motivate and encourage each other at least on a weekly basis. Next is to create set of Happy Routines. For example go to the gym at least 4 times a week, and choose a time when you’ll find very nice, friendly people. Another way is to plan to see a new movie (ideally a funny one) at least once a month... say on the First Friday of every month. Go out for dinner, and discuss happy occasions, and happy events since the last meeting. Send a positive SMS or a joke to your friends at least once a week, on a fixed day... for example Every Monday. Be aware of the things you say to people around you in general, and to yourself in particular. Speaking Good things, puts you in a positive frame of mind. Gossiping, Slander and Cribbing are activities with negative intent. Praising People, Asking Better Questions, and Consciously working on thinking good thoughts, and saying good things will go a long way towards making our world a better place for all of us.
Stay Positive, and Radiate positive thoughts, and you’ll do our planet a favour. You owe it to us... but more importantly... you owe it to yourself.
Make Happiness a Habit!
Ian Faria. (The author is a corporate trainer, motivational speaker, counselor and consultant who specializes in Organizational and Personal Enhancement). faria@a-pep.com
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