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Building your self confidence - Times Of India - Sat, 02 June 2007
Ian Faria has some simple ways to build the confidence you need to overcome challenges and succeed.
The origin of confidence could be traced back to childhood, and how we were treated by our parents, family, teachers and friends. However, confidence is a dynamic quality, and is never static. It changes from time to time, and is altered by circumstances, or more specifically, how we respond and react to those circumstances.
The good news is that we control our level of self confidence, and even if this attribute was not built in childhood, it can be built at any period of our lives.
Here are some surefire ways to build your confidence
Perception
Life is not what happens to us, but how we perceive what happens to us. We should therefore look at the good in whatever happens. When Mahatma Gandhi fought the might of the British empire, he had a number of setback and threats. But he took each of these as a challenge and it only re-enforced his resolve. We too can look at setbacks in our lives, not as problems, but as challenges that we need to overcome. When we actually overcome the challenge, we build our confidence even more.
Look at the positive side
Looking at things positively,prepares the mind to win. Every thought that we have is a seed that we plant, and this will grow and produce fruit. If the thought was positive,positive fruits will be produced. So we should train ourselves to think positive, speak positive and do positive deeds.
Visualise victory
Just like we have to put in many hours of practice before we can perform on stage, or play a match, we have to practice winning in our minds, before we can win in reality. This mental practice is done through visualisation, where we imagine what we want,in the way that we want it.We should see ourselves winning, and we should smile to our selves as we imbibe the feeling of that achievement.Repeated visualising adds to the credit balance.
Affirmations are positive statements that utilise the power of words.Repeating these as often as possible builds confidence. Here are a few affirmations that are very effective. "I am strong,and I will win"."I can and I will"."Everyday in every way, I get better, stronger and smarter".
Remember,we have within us all that we need to win, and we were programmed to succeed.All we need to do is to make up our minds and move.
Ian Faria. (The author is a corporate trainer, motivational speaker, counselor and consultant who specializes in Organizational and Personal Enhancement). faria@a-pep.com
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